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dear michael – i am so sorry for your loss. it sounds like it was a difficult road….
Michael and Family~
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. My heart ached as I read the final entry. Your wife had an amzing personailty and I loved reading her story. I’m so sorry that it ended this way. Stay strong 🙂
I am going through a very similar treatment to your wife. Sounds like she was an amazing person. I read the lot!
Please post the rest, its so important to the many of us going through the same, and maybe important for you too. How hard this must be for you.
Im so sorry to hear that she didnt make it:(, I had tears in my eyes reading her entries. I wish you all the best. Elle
I’m so sorry about the loss of your beautiful wife. She had a lot of courage to keep a history of her journey.
My sister and best friend is just starting down this path and reading this makes me feel less alone. I do hope you find the strength to write more because it is a story that should be told. Your wife, I feel would be so proud of you for telling her story and helping to relieve others fears. It’s not just cancer, it’s someone life.
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PLEASE, post the rest of the story! I know it is hard, but she became my mentor when I discovered the blog. I too have Level IV BC and have been fighting it for 14+ months. It was therapeutic for me to shed tears as she encountered bad days or laugh at a story she included of an escapade you guys went through. You don’t realize how important it is to acknowledge HOPE through someone else s story.
I pray for strength for you to find it in your heart to publish her blogs to the end. It will only enable her life to have more meaning to others that relate to her words. She did not die without leaving her legacy–please publish it for the many that walk down the same path that she walked those “baby steps.” Thank you for your consideration.
Paula P. Grinnell, IA
My sister (age 28) was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in November 2011. I really do understand that it is a whirlwind of emotions….I think right now it really hasn’t set in yet. I realize it will be an uphill battle, and I pray that she will overcome it.
I’m so sorry that this story had to end on such a sad note, but I’m so glad to have found this website.
Please continue posting if you can I have a close friend going through cancer. It helps not to be alone. So sorry for your loss.
Praying for you.I hope you are able to post some of her writings and your perspective.Hope you are able to be strong and that you had found a measure of peace.Blessings,Thandi
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your wife was a fighter! I’m so thankful that I could read her story and gain strength from it. God Bless.
I want to thank both you and your wife for sharing your stories with us. My wife has been diagnosed with breast cancer and reading this story has provided us with a wealth of information on what we cant expect for the next little while. As we started reading, many similarities kept popping up between our situations. Before we discovered my wife’s cancer, used to spend some of my free time reading up on medical journals and the pathologies of prominant diseases. I spent a lot of time researching IGA naphropathy when we discovered my older sister had it and I also spent quite a bit of time researching chronic Hepatitis B when I found out that I have it. Needless to say when my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer, I spent countless hours googling everything related to it. We live in Alberta Canada and we had one dog named Tiggs. He was a cross between a pit bull and a koralean bear dog. Unfortunately Tiggs is no longer with us. I met my wife when I was 18 just out of high school. I was in the midst of aquiring my trade certificate in culinary arts. I worked as a chef in Vancouver for 6 years. My wife is currently 33 and has many of the same personality traits that your wife had. I can’t help but wonder if they may have been the best of friends had they grown up together. Of course our situation is not exactly like yours was. We are still in the testing phase to determine what stage my wife is in. She has had cold/flu like symptoms for the past 6 weeks. She is mentally very strong and although she has every reason to sit back and feel sorry for herself she makes an active choice to be positive and upbeat especially for our 17 month old daughter. I’m not really sure why I am writing to you, I guess I just wanted to let you know how grateful we are that you shared your story.
I was looking for stories of people who are caregivers when I came across your wife’s posts and began reading with fear along with a lot of laugther. I know of many people who have suffered from a variety of cancers so I read each post amazed at the courage of your wife. Thank you for allowing this site to continue, hopefully someone will go to the doctor early and find their own lump early.
I’m not sure why I wrote to you but I just HAD to. I will keep you in my prayers and I hope this finds you well.
Dear friend… you’re more than a FRIEND, you’re my HERO, and I know WHAT I’m talking about. I’ve been where your beautiful, smart, full of life and brave wife had been.
It’s impossible to feel exactly like each of us,cancer fighters, felt or feel during this journey because we’ll all different with age/life experiences/diagnosis/treatment/etc,etc differences. But, one thing is for sure, every each of us at some point or another feels very lonely in this battle. And, I don’t mean that we are not surrounded by family, friends, loved ones, supporters and many others. Deep inside everyone who is fighting for his/her life left one on one with the fear of death. That is why reading one’s journey or listening to one’s story helps to feel like you’re not ALONE there. There been many others before you and many others after, so be BRAVE and FIGHT for your life – hours, days, months, years … all time is precious.
This young woman’s journey was short but she still was blessed with finding the love of her life, loving parents and years of happiness…
What I’m reading here tells me “Live your life for her. Push yourself to be brave and take control of your life, of your health. Go check your health issues when your insticts tell you: “Something isn’t right”. Get yourself a good health insuranse, no matter it’s expansive, you’re worth it. Love yourself and value your life and health – God gave it to you but nothing is forever. Have a long productive life and remember those whose life ended so short.”
So, thank you, my friend, for being so strong for your wife and for all of us. I hope that continuing posts will actually help you to find a peace in your soul. Good luck to you with all your struggles, and God bless you.
What a sad story and she sounded like a wonderfull and humorous lady i have just found lumps in my breast and im 36 wnt no anythiong till next week god bless x and yes it would be interesting 2 read the rest of her enteries and thank u so much 4 shareing with people
I came across this blog by accident a couple of hours ago and just read the whole story and was so terribly sad to find out that your wife passed away. I too have recently been diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer and I have a nagging dry cough just like she did.
Please post the rest of her story,she was an amazing person and she made me feel that I am not alone.
I am so sorry to hear this Michael – I was hoping as I read her blog that she was going strong….
I am a photographer living with Breast Cancer. I feel a sisterhood with her – I have stage 3a breast cancer, I went through surgery having 6 lymph nodes show up with Cancer and a small 2 cm spot in my left breast, I went through chemo ( changed the way I was eating so I didn’t gain the weight) and just finished my last radiation treatment. I would love to read more of her post – she truly had a great since of humor like me and attitude.
sending good energy and prayers.
peace love photography
I was recently diagnoised, masectomy, port and preapared to take chemo on two occasions so far. Fortunatley or unfortunatley the doctors haven’t figured things out yet, it’s been postponed. I must admit reading the blog I expected her to make it, I wanted her to make it she needed to for herself and all those who love her. If you can post the the rest if you can’ t i understand. Did you ever go back to the original doctor and ask why he didn’t give her a mamo, i know she said it was becasue she was so young and they thought it was a cyst but that is unacceptable. Have you had a chance to get angry yet? Please take care of yourself and i really believe she’s smiling down at you wanting to you to know she’s ok now.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I came upson your wifes story by accident and I read the whole thing. Its so sad. I too have breast cancer- Stage IIIA. I will finish my last chemo next week. I found the story funny at times when she talked about her experiences with chemo and her hair and how fast it is to get ready after you take a shower. And the folks rubbing your head like your some kind of Ginnie. But I know all too well the white blood cell rescue shot the day after chemo and then feeling the horrible bone pain and days when I walked down the hall holding the walls and shuffling my feet feeling like I’m 90 years old. I hope you finish her story. Thank you for sharing her story. I hope this finds you well,
Hi Mike. I am so sorry about what you and your wife went through. She had such a raw, beautiful way of writing poignant truth in an honest and often humorous manner. I also would like to encourage you to post the rest of her story. It would help her voice, to those fighting out there, to be heard. And her legacy will live on. God bless you.
“God will bring beauty for ashes..” Isaiah 62:3
“He is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18
sir, i lost my wife to metastatic triple negative breast cancer almost a year ago. reading this blog has been very cathartic for me. i can imagine it is hell for you. thanks for taking the time and the pain to make it available. jim
Keep your wife alive thru writing this blog. Time heals all pains but when you deal with life threading illness, I think time is not fast enough for the healing process. Im going to get my results from a biopsy today. Life seems so more precious after the thought of cancer. Please keep her word alive she sounded like such a special women.
God bless you!
I accidentally came across this blog and read it. I am inspired by her fight! I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom to stage IV Lymphoma. Please keep her memory through this blog. Continue the story. I will pray for you. Remember God is with you and she is always with you.
If you ever need someone to talk to I am a very good listner. It comes with my profession. Email me anytime. email@example.com Take care!
Gad bless you and your family
I just ran across Karen’s blog and oh my, I just knew she was going to beat it!! Her attitude, determination and ability to find humor in the most difficult of situations is such an inspiration.
Michael, I can only imagine the emptiness you have felt and the pain you have endured in watching her suffer. My heart goes out to you. Just know that Karen is in heaven watching over you and one day you will join her and she will have a beautiful head of hair and most importantly, a body free of pain and cancer.
P. S. my Mom was just diagnosed last week with stage iv bc. liver, spleen and bone mets. yesterday, she underwent round one of chemo. She has never missed a mammogram, but her doc checked the box “probably benign” and told her to return in six mths. Sad, sad, sad, and totally preventable. Angry at the docs, but it won’t give my mom more time and there is no point in wasting my time and energy on anger. I need to devote all my time to my mom, taking care of her and spending as much time as God is allowing. God Bless you, always. Karen
I actually read this blog yesterday and was not going to leave a comment, but I have been thinking about this all day. I hope you consider posting the rest of Karens story. Karen’s story could save someones life. Many of us have a tendency to trust our doctors and not seek a second opinion. Today I made an apt. for a Diagnostic Mammogram, just to make sure. Your wife had amazing strength and such a positive attitude going into her battle with cancer. As I was reading her posts, I was hoping for a happy ending. I am very sorry for your loss. Sending strength and prayers to you.
Karen’s story is so important to have published. I found her blog last year, shortly after my stage iv diagnosis at age 37. The similarities between her story and mine are uncanny, but reading her story helped me get through those first few awful weeks.
I can’t imagine what this has done to you, and it terrifies me knowing that I’ll be putting my husband and family through the same thing.
I just wanted you to know how important it is for those of us in the same situation to know that we’re not alone. I tell people that the blogs I follow are like crystal balls. Knowing what to expect as I travel this road has helped me prepare myself and my family for what is to be.
Thank you for sharing your story with the world.
Karen – I have your blog saved in my favorites and I always enjoy reading it. I like being able to hear your words whenever I miss you. I posted it on several “fight cancer” pages on Facebook. I think your writings are inspirational to say the least. You showed tremendous strength, and for that, I have much respect for you. Always in my thoughts…Jeff G
This makes me so sad but also so angry. Please view my posting on youtube. Its called CANCER. SHOCKING PHOTOS! SHOCKING FACTS! to see why.
I started following a long time ago when your wife was still posting. I was newly diagnosed with breast cancer and about her age. I kept checking back occasionally, hoping for her to keep up her story telling and share her humor.
I just want you to know someone out there was always checking in, noticed some of the brief updates, and saw changes to the blog. I saw your pain and how much you missed beautiful Karen. Though you may want to hold parts of Karen’s story just for you, I hope you will continue to share her difficult story. BOTH of you have made a difference in my life.
Thank you for sharing your lives.
Karen was an inspiration to many people. I know this because I have posted her blog, over the past few years, on several web pages on sites that I either admin or write content for, and have been thanked and praised for it by many, many people; men and women. I have been told by enough people her story and words positively changed the way patients with cancer perceived their own diagnosis and life with the disease. Still to this day, when appropriate, I post a link to this blog because of the responses I have received in the past. I find it amazing and gratifying at the same time that Karen continues to be a positive life force in peoples lives. I was grateful to have known her. Please keep this website going…Karen continues to live through it, inspiring many. Peace! Jeff
How sad i am that i didn’t discover this site when my cancer journey started 16 months ago. Thanks for sharing, it will definitely help me to cope better and express myself better. Karen must have been an amazing person, so positive. Sending strength and peace to you and your family.
I have tears in my eyes as i read this. I am 30 was just diagnosed with breast cancer.
reading this blog was sooo encouraging. Karen was such a positive woman.
Much love and hugs to you..!
Michael- Thank you for posting as much as you could. I am very sorry for your loss! Your wife sounds amazing!! Ironically, my husband’s name is Michael too. And he comes from a big Italian Family. I have just been diagnosed with IDC and don’t even have the complete results of the biopsy. Much love to you and your family (the dogs). I wish you a peaceful life!
Hi Michael, so sorry for your loss. i know Karen is in a better place atm.
I stumble across this blog accidentally while i’m googling about breast cancer. Karen’s blog entries will give lots of information and strength to others who have similar condition.
Michael, I have read what has been posted. I would have really liked your wife. I loved her writing and her humor. I loved your loving support and how much effort you put into learning whatever you could. As I read, I just felt that even with the slim odds, you guys could beat it! I am very sorry for your loss and for those who knew and loved her. Publishing her blog is doing a service to those going through this awful disease. I wish you peace.
Thank you Debra. I also felt, that even with the slim odds, we would beat it. I really did. I never, in my wildest dreams thought I would lose my beloved Karen. It’s not anything I’ll ever get over. If you want to pick up where you left off, I have added more posts starting here: https://fighting-breast-cancer.com/story-of-delayed-breast-cancer-diagnosis/page/23/
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE continue. Out of all the BC blogs I have come across, hers is the only one I read [non-stop] from beginning to end!
It’s like meeting a wonderful brave couple that inspires you, and than “poof” they’re gone before you can get to know them either better.
sooo many years later, I just met her today and I miss her already. My prayers go out to you Michael…GOD BLESS 🙂
Michael, I am so glad you have made up your mind to finish Karen’s story. It is her story, that has inspired and given me the strength to share my own.
I agree, patients need to educate themselves and participate in their own advocacy.
God bless you Michael…..now let the healing continue! 🙂
I’m trying Shelly. I’m trying as hard as I can. Right now, I feel like I can do it, so I’m working my butt off. I’m going to start responding to comments and treating this blog with the respect that my wife would want me to treat it with. You can pick up where you left off right here: https://fighting-breast-cancer.com/story-of-delayed-breast-cancer-diagnosis/page/23/
Thank you for reading and commenting!
What an amazing lady. I found this site earlier today and couldn’t stop reading it. I write now in tears, I’m so sorry for the loss of your amazing wife. Mitzi. Northern Ireland
Michael I am so sorry for your loss. Karen’s spirit just shines through her writing. Thank you so much for continuing her story.
Thank you Penelope. You can pick up where you left off right here: https://fighting-breast-cancer.com/story-of-delayed-breast-cancer-diagnosis/page/23/
I appreciate you reading and I know Karen does too.
Dear Michael, I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer at 29, and have spent hours surfing the blogs of cancer patients. Your wife’s is bar far the most well written, and I think the most inspiring. Mis-diagnosis is THE most common thing I have read regarding young breast-cancer patients, and so I think your cause is very smart. Best to you in the future.
Thank you Rachel. I have added content. You have to go “back in time” though: https://fighting-breast-cancer.com/story-of-delayed-breast-cancer-diagnosis/page/23/ Thank you so much for reading and commenting. I’m sorry I’ve been away for so long.
Thank you for sharing Karen’s Blog with me, I found it today and read it from start to end in one shot. In so many ways it was like reading my own story. Since May 2009 I have been fighting breast cancer which is triple negative and now metastatic. My Dr’s no longer tell me they are hoping for a cure but are simply looking to manage my cancer for as long as they can. I’m now on my fourth type of chemotherapy. I’ve faced the hairloss,the nausea, the fatigue, having a port put in and so many of the same experiences as your wife. Like so many BC sufferers I’ve met, she was a strong and determined lady with a great sense of humour and I’m sure we’d have got on. She was lucky to have such a suportive husband, as my hubby has become distant and removed himself from my illness as it it isnt happening. My family, especially my Mum have been supportive and I have two beautiful daughters Erin and Katy (8 and 6 years old) who give me the strength every day to fight the battle and face the next treatment. I so wanted her story to have a happy ending and cried when I read your final entry. Whilst she may have lost her personal battle, posting this blog for others to share gives her story a positive outcome. Please continue to print the rest of her story, it’s too important for it not to be told.
Wishing you strength to bear your loss and much love,
Elisa– Thank you. Thank you so much for your beautiful words. Your inner beauty shines through. And Karen absolutely loved everyone from the UK and she would have a big smile on her face if she read, “…and I’m sure we’d have got on.” She would have been so thrilled to have somebody say “we’d have got on.” She would love that. Every actor she was in love with came from somewhere in the U.K. I noticed the pattern quickly; she denied it, but we know better.
I’m so sorry to hear that your husband has pulled away. I wish I could say something about that, but I don’t know… I felt more bonded to my wife then ever before. When she became sick, her and I joked that it was like being pregnant. “She” didn’t have cancer, “we” had cancer. Of course, I am still alive, so that doesn’t work out too well for me or her.
I know a lot of men have trouble dealing with this. I don’t know why, but I know it’s fairly common. It sucks that you are going through it.
I added content to Karen’s blog if you are interested in picking up where you left off: https://fighting-breast-cancer.com/story-of-delayed-breast-cancer-diagnosis/page/23/
I have read Karen’s blog twice- once when I was just diagnosed with BC and again one year later. I also found your posts on you tube. It is easy to see why you loved her so much. I will be one of those waiting with great anticipation for the rest of karen’s words.
It is easy to see isn’t it? She was like sunshine and rainbows somehow crammed into human form. Corny? Yes, but I don’t give a shit. There was nothing bad about that girl. Not a thing. The most pure-of-heart person I’ve ever met.
I bet, if there was a sword stuck in a stone somewhere, she could pull it out.
Yeah, I love her.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I, too, am fighting breast cancer. Thank you and your wife for sharing your plight. I’m gone through very much of the same symptoms, emotional reactions – your wife’s depiction is very accurate and is very useful for all who seeks information, as well as emotional healing. She seemed a wonderful and strong woman. God bless.
Jacqueline, she was a wonderful woman, and just by reading your comment, it is clear that you too are a wonderful woman. I’m so glad Karen wrote things that you can relate to. Of course, I can’t relate to it… I can’t even imagine. Like my wife, you have my utmost respect. Beat this thing Jacqueline, then come back and tell me about it.
I added more of Karen’s posts, you can find them here. This is where I think you left off: https://fighting-breast-cancer.com/story-of-delayed-breast-cancer-diagnosis/page/23/
Thank you for posting Karens blog. It is truly amazing. Made me smile as much as it made me sad. But this is just to you. I am a doctor, a newly diagnosed breast cancer patient and a person who lost their husband at 33 so I wanted to let you know a few things
First I will never ever neglect to get a mammogram or biopsy, whatever it takes if a young women comes to me with a lump. That’s just as much because of this blog as it is my own experience.
Second you are strong. How do I know? You published the blog.
Last and I hope you are ok with this.. I remarried after a number of years and have 2 great kids. Yeah and a great husband. It’s so hard when you lose someone that young
but stay strong and keep up the work that helps others
I am so sorry. What a shock. I have read from the beginning in one sitting, it is so well written and interesting. Then, out of the blue, I read your post. I do hope you finish posting your wife’s story.
Hi Jenny. Thanks. I have added new stuff, so… I think if you want to continue the story, you need to go here: https://fighting-breast-cancer.com/story-of-delayed-breast-cancer-diagnosis/page/23/ to finish reading where you left off. I’ll keep posting. Karen has a lot of stuff she left me to do!
Hi Michael. I am so sad to read how Karen’s fight ended. I have really enjoyed reading her words and she seems like such an amazing lady. I am so sorry for your precious loss. I have been following her blog for quite a while and would love if all of her blogs or writings were posted. I noticed you added some blogs just now. Is that all she has written? I see 27 pages. She is such an inspiration and I would really love to read anything else she has written about her battle with this dreadful illness. Thanks so much for sharing her journey thus far with all of us, and my heartfelt thoughts go out to you for losing such a special woman. In her writings I can tell she really loved you. My best wishes for you. – Jen
Thank you for adding new posts. This was the first blog I encountered when I was diagnosed last year. It helped me to start my own, to feel that cathartic feeling of getting it out. You may not think it, but you’re very strong to continue on with Karen’s words. God bless.
I am sorry for your loss. I am thankful to have read Karen’s story as she told the truth. I finally I know what to expect and what to do. Thank you,
I came across your wife’s blog today and I must say she was an incredibly courageous person. I was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma in March of this year. I am 28 years old. I finished chemo about 8 weeks ago. I agree that there are a lot of women out there who go mis diagnosed. It is tragic for lack of a better word. As I’ve learned through my journey it is so important to be an advocate your own health. Your wife’s story is so inspiring. I wish you all the best. Thank you.
Ive been researching breast cancer misdiagnoses for a few wks now. I myself am going through the motions of a second opinion. Apparently it’s just a cyst located in my left breast. ( one dr. even used words solid mass ) I’ve been experiencing some annoying pain under my underarm/breast area that refuses to go away after a month and half now. Anyways, got news this past thurs from 2nd opinion that they agree to follow up of every 6 mos. ( mind you that first dr. stated I not been seen til I’m 40. I’m 36 now ) I told second opinion nurses that I don’t care what it is I want it OUT!!! I’m a mother of three children and I’m not going to risk we’ll see you in 6 months and in the meantime there could be cancer growing… I’ve read Karens blog from start to finish in one setting and I get to the last one and I cried. I’m sorry for your loss. She was a brave, courageous woman, who from what I’ve read fought to stay strong for her family as well as herself. Thank You so much for sharing this blog. God Bless You and your family.
Thank you so much Jenny. I totally agree with you of course- don’t take one doctor’s opinion. I swear, I have seen three different doctors about the same thing and they’ve all told me something different. Of course, most people don’t see multiple doctors, so they don’t realize how differently they may all “diagnose” something. In reality, if people went to multiple doctors, they would be terrified at how they so often don’t agree with one another. I hope you’re alright.
OMG I’m so sorry for your loss, I just started reading the blogs today.
I just read this entire blog, start to finish. I’m crying as I read the ending because it is not the ending anyone would want for such an amazing woman and her incredible husband and family. I am sorry beyond words for your loss. Your wife’s humor and love of life jump off the pages of this blog. Your love for each other is palpable. I hope you are richly blessed with love and good health and a very long life. You were a wonderful husband to Karen, God rest her soul.
I have never read a blog or post a comment before, I came across Karen’s blog by accident and I read it all in one shot, I couldn’t stop. I felt for some reason the need to let you know how important, inspiring and healing are her words to all of us who read it. I just lost my sister to stage 4 breast cancer and reading Karen’s blog was like reading into my sister’s diary, it was like a window into her emotions and the difficult process of dealing with cancer. There’s SO MANY similarities (even the holy water incident), that it touched home. My sister was also misdiagnose, they saw something a year before, but didn’t mentioned to her because they tough it was nothing. The reason she knew this later, was because she got hand of one of her old scans and it shows the circle area and a note that there was a mass there, possibly a dried cyst. By the time they told her, a year had passed and the cancer grew out of control and spread to her lungs.
Thank you Michael for sharing your wife’s story, although still difficult for you, just know that it truly helps to give strength and courage to thousands of people going through similar experiences. Her legacy lives on, thanks to you!!
Hi Michael –
Thank you so much for keeping Karen’s words alive through this blog. Her blog was one of the many I found when I was first diagnosed with BC in 2008 – and it’s literally the only one that has stuck with me. I believe I was able to read the whole thing back then, and I keep coming back to see if there are more posts, because she was just so damn witty and poignant at the same time. I feel like I know her, and her memory lives on with me, truly, and with so many others. The last post here, about the Mexican laborers, is beautiful, and that stays with me too.
Anyway – I see so many blogs that are removed after that person is gone, so thank you for not doing that. My thoughts are still with you, in sympathy for the loss of your beautiful Karen.
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